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Parenting Teenagers Today

Monday, April 16th, 2012

The thought of parenting a teenager today is enough to make some people think that maybe they don’t want children at all. Parenting teens is often filled with turmoil and stress.

The first thing a parent needs to recognize is that the focus for teen parenting is different than raising a child. The child needs to learn the basics, so to speak, the ‘how to’ of life: reading, social skills and such. They need to learn how to become independent while conforming to a group.

Parenting, then, becomes a fine line to walk between letting the teen make decisions that can affect the rest of his life and establishing and maintaining guidelines as they make those choices. This is no easy feat. The parents need to evaluate the guidelines to determine whether they are in place for the teen’s sake or for their own needs.

Parenting the child means having total control over all of the child’s aspects of life. Parenting the teenager means letting go of that control. This in itself is scary for many parents.

The key to parenting the teenager is recognizing that while there will be conflict; it does not have to be destructive. There are many things the parent can do that will allow the teen the freedom she needs while still preserving the boundaries and values that will keep her protected.

The parents of teens need also remember that despite what their teen may say, they one of the greatest influences in their teens life. It is therefore absolutely necessary that the parents spend as much time as possible with their teen. So be certain to spend quality time with the teenager listening to what she has to say. Don’t react with shock or disapproval at the things they say. Instead ask them how they feel and why.

Parents need to help the teenager evaluate what the consequences in the future might be from the choices they make. Parents also need to share their own values and why they feel the way they do during these conversations.

So parent of a teenager do not despair. Rather that dreading this time in your child’s life, remember that your job as her parent is to prepare her for life on her own. There is no greater reward than that.

Parenting Development and Its Importance

Tuesday, November 16th, 2010

When asked if good quality parenting development is harder for single parents, most experts will say yes. As few as 5 years ago there were over 20 million single parent homes. The decision to go through a divorce always raises concerns about the children and the challenges that a single person rising a child will face. You have probably seen lone parents go through this and watched them struggle under the strain.

Whether or not you are considering a divorce and the impending issue of being a single parent, if children are involved, it should never be done to vindictively take something away from your partner; this is never a reason for even considering divorce. You need to be sure that you will be able to face parenting issues based entirely on your own inner strengths and how you handle pressure.

Parenting development is an important process for all parents but even more so if you are a single person raising a child; it is a tough job and things that you may have taken for granted when you were married will not be available when you are alone. Being a single parent means that you will have very little time for yourself; in actuality yourself will be all about your child. Make sure that you are ready for this type of responsibility, as healthy child development depends on getting the best care possible.

Knowing your children is an essential part to being a good single parent; you will need to know how they will react to the many changes that are bound to be coming. Are they going to adjust to seeing one of the parents less or feel comfortable going to another home for visitation? When raising a child this way, they must be aware of the fact that there may not be as many luxuries as there were before. Be ready to answer any questions that your child may have. Being a single party raising a child is hard and your child is going to be affected, so you’ll need to be more supportive as well.